To be sure, a ring bearer adds a distinct cute factor in any wedding
To be sure, a ring bearer adds a distinct cute factor in any wedding (including yours, no less). But even if you are fortunate enough to have a dozen adorable young nephews to choose from (this may be more of a problem than a gift, though, since you get to pick your ‘favorite’ nephew among the bunch), your ring bearer should first be up to the huge responsibility of carrying the wedding rings down the aisle, even if the rings are fake. For a young boy, a four-hour ceremony and a mere thirty paces can be an eternity, which means that there are plenty of opportunities for self-preoccupation. Even though a little playfulness wouldn’t hurt (boys will be boys), make sure that your ring bearer is mature enough to take on such a pivotal role in your wedding ceremony.
Your ideal ring bearer has to be at a certain age to assume the role
Your ideal ring bearer has to be at a certain age to assume the role. While you do want your ring bearer to look as cute as they come (maybe at the age of three or four), you can pull this off only if you know the boy well enough to say that he won’t run around or cry on the aisle. Otherwise, you’d have better chances with an eight or nine-year-old boy. They can have the maturity to match with the adorable looks. Entrusting him with real rings instead of fake ones can also be quite a risk, even if you believe with adamant conviction that he’ll take care of it; it’s best to let best man keep it until the big moment comes, and let the boy hold on to a replica.
A lot of things can occur between the lobby and the aisle
A lot of things can occur between the lobby and the aisle – the boy may buckle up at the last moment and start a fit; be prepared for these expected side attractions. Remember that the ring bearer’s actual roles in the ceremony concern the walk and the photo ops; all else can be done away with. If you choose to let the boy remain with the parents from the hall to the aisle, they might miss crucial elements of the ceremony, so it’s best to leave him to the care of one of your bridesmaids. The parents can sit at the front aisle, to receive him after his walk, and to keep him at bay during the ceremony if he proves to be more energetic than expected.
In general your ring bearer should be less of the types which can be quite difficult to deal with
In general your ring bearer should be less of the types which can be quite difficult to deal with for such a serious ceremony. Children can be quite stubborn, and if they are shy to begin with, that can be a problem. You can’t coax a bawling child to walk down the aisle; since kids can be quite unpredictable, make sure the emergency ‘tools’ are within reach in case the child buckles: a teddy bear, a toy, anything which can pacify him enough to take the walk. Naughty little tykes can also be a cute addition to your wedding, but they can distract too much attention from the ceremony and onto themselves, so have them sit beside the parents or a bridesmaid they’re comfortable with, and provide them with distractive opportunities, such as a coloring book or a portable game. This way you get to spend your wedding day in the exact way you want it to be – free from worries and hassles, and your ring bearer would have done his ideal part in the picture.