So you’ve been given the privilege of being invited for a friend or relative’s big day
So you’ve been given the privilege of being invited for a friend or relative’s big day. At this point, count yourself among the lucky ones; not everyone gets to share in a person’s most important day, and if you’re part of a very short list of guests, then you mean that much to the couple, so much so that they practically wouldn’t do without you. Now, if you’re already married, you should understand that there are expectations for wedding guests, unwritten laws but should be observed nonetheless. If your own wedding was hassle-free, you can return the favor by observing proper etiquette when it comes to other people’s weddings. If you’re still single and unaware of the dos and don’ts of attending a wedding, then consider yourself properly prepped up.
The invite is obviously the first official evidence which heralds the wedding
The invite is obviously the first official evidence which heralds the wedding, and you are fortunately invited in it. How couldn’t you be? But do take note that most invitations carry an RSVP postscript. RSVP, or ‘repondez s’il vous plait’ is an elegant way of saying that you are cordially invited, but you have to respond immediately in order to be counted. Usually there’s also a date which serves as your response deadline. Don’t get in the way of the wedding plans by procrastinating on yours; they have to finalize such details of the wedding as the catering deals and the favors, and your response is very necessary for a definitive estimate of costs. It’s against etiquette not to reply to an RSVP after the limit expires, and it’s practically a crime to show up at the event if you chose not to reply. The couple will have to make last-minute accommodations for you, and this means more costs and hassles.
You should also be sensitive about the invite’s message
You should also be sensitive about the invite’s message, especially when it comes to bringing along other people. If it explicitly states that you can bring along a companion for the wedding by posting the invite along the lines of ‘Mr./Ms. so-and-so and guest’, then you can bring along an escort or a date. Married couples, and those who are known to be engaged or deeply involved with each other are both invited, without further ado. Otherwise, consider that the couple will probably pay for per-plate meals, and if it implies that you should attend the wedding by yourself, take the hint and don’t bring someone along. On a related note, you might be tempted to call up either of the couple to ask if you can take a guest with you – don’t put the couple in an awkward position of paying for someone they practically don’t know enough to invite in the first place.
While it is not essential for you to buy gifts for the couple
While it is not essential for you to buy gifts for the couple, proper etiquette prescribes that you should have something to show for gratitude. Whether the gift is monetary in nature, or you picked it up from a wedding registry selection, you are given a year following the wedding date to ensure that the couple receives it. Once you do attend the event, don’t be a distraction to the ceremony, or a party pooper at the reception; your behavior not only puts you in a bad light, it also offsets the impression on an otherwise blissful event.