Wedding toasts have become a necessary tradition
Right before the reception meal, wine glasses are usually tapped with spoons, and raised in recognition of a person who would like to share a snippet of advice or a tribute speech for the newlywed couple. Wedding toasts have become a necessary tradition, since it is believed to put the couple on the right track towards a meaningful life together. The person who shares the toast usually relies on a quick anecdote, or a funny story which involves the couple. The speaker should keep in mind that the speech serves more of a transition device towards the meal than anything else, so a couple of guidelines should be considered in order to usher in a pleasant dinner, and avoid upset appetites.
Having the speech written down and revised takes care of any inconsistencies and careless words
Having the speech written down and revised takes care of any inconsistencies and careless words which may be put the couple in a disparaging light; it also keeps the toast concise and meaningful. If the speaker is particularly good at making spontaneous speeches, then it would be to his advantage if he runs the words through his mind a couple of times before he utters them. If he has difficulty patching words together, especially in the presence of a group of anticipating friends and family, then short notes written on cards may come in handy. An unplanned speech reveals itself in the first few lines, either through hesitant wording, or one which may be too bold as to become awkward. A speech with a relevant theme and a personal tone usually delivers the best effect, but if the person is having difficulties in coming up with something to say, he may browse online for famous quotes and adages which he can improvise upon in order to suit his needs; keep in mind that the speech can be memorable, as long as it is in touch with the moment.
Standing up before making the toast
Standing up before making the toast, the speaker should make sure that all glasses are full before beginning the speech. With the glass held with the right hand and raised straight, he makes the speech, while maintaining eye contact with the people taking part in the toast. He should keep the toast short but sweet, considering that all glasses are raised and arms tend to tire quickly, and attention spans are fleeting. Concluding the toast on a formal note, he then makes a short recognition of the couple, and wishes them good luck.
Since several people usually take this once-in-a-lifetime event as an opportunity to offer their two-cents worth
Since several people usually take this once-in-a-lifetime event as an opportunity to offer their two-cents worth, the order for a formal toast begins with the best man, a close friend or a relative; they pay their tribute to the bride and then to the couple; the groom then makes his reply, before another toast is made by an usher or an intimate friend of the married couple. The bride’s father has the privilege of the final toast.
The content of the toast should dwell on a positive light
The content of the toast should dwell on a positive light; the speaker’s emotions should not get in the way, and he should keep the focus of the speech on the couple. It should not be so careless as to reveal details which are solely relying upon the discretion of the newlyweds. Some speeches are full of bravado that they end up falling flat on their faces; some with humorous content which is more suitable for TV dinners than for a wedding reception. Suppress the urge to linger on with the toast. Keeping the speech light, concise, and intimate makes for a memorable wedding toast.